Day 311: To My Sister on Her 19th Day of Marriage
Congratulations. Not because you’re married now, and not because you threw an amazing party that your guests begrudgingly left high on laughter and wine and still super sweaty from dancing to What Does the Fox Say.
Congratulations because you’re a thoughtful, intelligent, funny, caring, dedicated, driven and beautiful person. And you married a guy who respects, challenges and loves you. I am proud to call him my brother.
Watching you on your wedding day reminded me how incredibly lucky I am to be your (slightly older and incredibly knowledgable) sister. But mostly your friend. You move through life with a sort of fierce grace that I so admire.
Since I neglected to leave these at the wedding itself, here are my wishes for you and my new little bro:
May you foster a bright light in each other. May you feed the light’s flame should it ever start to dim.
May you help each other grow, with the wisdom that you can grow in different and complementary ways.
May you let the little things go. May you respect the big things.
May you laugh and laugh and laugh.
May you not try to change each other. May you commit to constant personal growth instead.
May you create a safe and welcoming space for each other.
May you support each other’s interests but not each other’s habits.
May you always think quirks are cute.
May you celebrate the beautiful world together. May you cry sometimes, too.
May you pause often and let angry words float quietly away.
May you understand each other’s needs. May you respect that your partner’s needs may be different than yours.
May you work and relax.
And may you always remember that you have two sisters, two brothers and a host of other lovelies who are there for you anytime you need really good advice, dance instruction, booze, a good book, an arm to lean on, pizza, a doctor, perspective, funny jokes and/or an open ear. We’re only an instant phone call or a short plane ride away.